This year has been difficult for me for reasons that deserve a post of it’s own. This has led me down a path of occasional sub-optimal performance in my job, and personal life too. It has taken me some time to get my act together; and work out how to deal with stress and worry-some situations. Meditation, reading, close people and honest conversations with my internal being/ self has helped me develop an always evolving WIP framework for dealing with situations which make me feel anxious and/ or overwhelmed. Below I outline this framework for dealing with worry-some situations:
- Describe your feelings. Articulate what you feel, not what you think. A big help for this has been referencing the feelings wheel to help me articulate how I feel, and if necessary, how to communicate these feelings(using NVC) to myself, and if necessary, other people in a way that articulates my needs clearly.
- Get the facts in an impartial way. Writing down these facts is an important step, since it makes something that seems abstract more concrete.
- Analyse the aforementioned facts. Some useful questions I use are: Given these facts, what’s the worst that could happen? How do I feel about this? Again, use the feelings wheel to help with this.
- Finally, make a decision based off these facts. Act on your decision. Do something about it!
These steps have really helped me deal with anxiety-inducing situations in a much more productive way. I write this, primarily for myself to reference later, and hopefully help some random person out there.